Jessie T. Wolf
Working It Out...|
|Date:||July 17th, 2008 08:46 pm (UTC)|| |
Thank you Miriam!! It's so cool to see you on LJ! ^_^
We are still working things out slowly. Now comes the challenging part, with Tim and I being separated for a bit again. But honestly, this will probably help our relationship out quite a bit, and help me figure out who I am. I need to stand on my own two feet, and I know that Tim is a bit sad about the separateness of our relationship at the moment... but a bit of pain now will make for much more happiness later on down the road. :)
Been cool seeing you on LJ too! *grins*
I totally understand about your feelings of being separated and I sympathize greatly. It sucks that the visa people have to be such a pain in the ass but in hindsight the delay and your separate living conditions should make more sense.
I just went through a similar thing of my own, not moving out but moving my office back to the main house. Strange how I wanted to close off for so long from every one including James. But I think I needed to do that, to feel safe, to know that emotionally and business wise I can make it on my own.
I'm still a long, long way from feeling 100% confident about my strength but that 'little' move in location (especially since I spend soooo much time in my office working) made a huge difference mentally. I was really surprised it had that much of an effect on me.
I feel so comfortable now, almost like a different person, more stable and open to feeling safe... I cant quite put my finger on it but if I were to do it all over again just to form this kind of foundation I would in a heartbeat.
I'm confident that it will strengthen not only my relationship with James but with other people as well.
My little move probably doesn't hold a candle to the distance you and Tim have to be apart but I hope you find the same results I did and many more positives along the way.
*hugs* You guys are always in my thoughts...