Jessie T. Wolf
Working It Out...|
First of all congrads on being married, boy I really haven't been reading my LJs much, cause I totally missed that.
Congrads on the house, nothing like saying I'm going home and mean it in the possessive.
As for the mother-in-law thing, I honestly can't say that from her point of view, with how you laid things out, I could totally blame her for feeling the way that she does or expressing it how she is. Better that she be upfront with you and address her concerns directly to you than do so behind your back. And frankly, as a dude, this is where your Tim should be stepping up a bit as well. Man law and all that.
Do hope though you guys get it together and your immigration process goes as smoothly as possible.
|Date:||July 2nd, 2008 07:59 pm (UTC)|| |
Thanks for the congrats.:)
My issue with her was not her being concerned - my issue with her was how she brought it up with me. I'm sorry, but you don't ask if you can "speak with someone" and then turn around and *yell at* them, and then storm off. That was completely uncalled for, and she could have handled that much better than she did.
The thing is though, a lot of what she was concerned about, (mainly the immigration/visa thing, and why I have to get a place in Vancouver) both Tim and I have already previously tried talking with her about, on a couple of separate occasions. But she doesn't listen. Not to me, and not to Tim. She literally says, "Whatever!" and turns her back on you and stops listening. That is not an exaggeration, either. O__o
Tim did talk with her, on my behalf, and he has stuck up for me. But again, she argues, and she doesn't ever listen. So Tim's stopped trying to talk with her, because you simply cannot communicate with her, on a rational level.
But honestly, neither of us will have to deal with it for much longer, since I will be back in Canada soon, and Tim will be in his own place. Better to just smile and nod, in her case, and just let her think/do whatever she wants. *shrugs*
Thank you very much for your well wishes. I hope you are doing well! Been a while since we've chatted, really. Do you still go to cons at all? Tim and I will be at AC next year for sure. :-P