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Jessie T. Wolf
July 1st, 2008
10:25 am


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Working It Out...

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Date:July 1st, 2008 08:06 pm (UTC)
Hey Jessie, Miriam here...

Just wanted to send huge amounts of support from Alaska. I understand what your going through more than you know... not because Ive interacted with Tims mother or even met her in person but because my life has traveled down similar paths years and years before, even before I knew Tim. Many things your going through are so similar to my past that its just about eerie.

I TOTALLY understand your aversion to 'pretending', its not fun and I'm not totally convinced its the way to go. But kudos to you for trying, damn fine kudos girl!

If you need to talk email or call... in the mean time, hang in there and always be true to yourself... everything will work out alright in the end, getting there is the hardest part...
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Date:July 17th, 2008 08:46 pm (UTC)
Thank you Miriam!! It's so cool to see you on LJ! ^_^

We are still working things out slowly. Now comes the challenging part, with Tim and I being separated for a bit again. But honestly, this will probably help our relationship out quite a bit, and help me figure out who I am. I need to stand on my own two feet, and I know that Tim is a bit sad about the separateness of our relationship at the moment... but a bit of pain now will make for much more happiness later on down the road. :)

Date:July 23rd, 2008 08:23 am (UTC)
Been cool seeing you on LJ too! *grins*

I totally understand about your feelings of being separated and I sympathize greatly. It sucks that the visa people have to be such a pain in the ass but in hindsight the delay and your separate living conditions should make more sense.

I just went through a similar thing of my own, not moving out but moving my office back to the main house. Strange how I wanted to close off for so long from every one including James. But I think I needed to do that, to feel safe, to know that emotionally and business wise I can make it on my own.

I'm still a long, long way from feeling 100% confident about my strength but that 'little' move in location (especially since I spend soooo much time in my office working) made a huge difference mentally. I was really surprised it had that much of an effect on me.

I feel so comfortable now, almost like a different person, more stable and open to feeling safe... I cant quite put my finger on it but if I were to do it all over again just to form this kind of foundation I would in a heartbeat.

I'm confident that it will strengthen not only my relationship with James but with other people as well.

My little move probably doesn't hold a candle to the distance you and Tim have to be apart but I hope you find the same results I did and many more positives along the way.

*hugs* You guys are always in my thoughts...
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