It Gets Even Better!! - Jessie T. Wolf
It Gets Even Better!!|
You know that guy who e-mailed me the other day complaining to me that I wouldn’t draw him free art? I got another e-mail from him today:
Back during the middle ages and renaissance, people actually did work for money, and it was real money, not the peanuts you get nowadays. As to the issue of charity, let me tell you a little about me: I happen to be in a wheelchair. I have tried to commit suicide many times, and I feel it would be a good way to combat my depression if someone did me the favor of drawing a picture to let a little sunshine into my life. THAT is what I call charity. If you are unwilling to help me out, to hell with you and the rest of your capitalist friends.
I know I shouldn’t have, but this made me rather angry, that humanity can sink to this level, so I wrote him this, and I’m not even going to bother looking at anything else he sends me:
Wow... I never use my own fallbacks to get what I want. I suffer from random stress-related anxiety attacks, which cause severe chest pains and muscle spasms to my left arm and hand that can cause it to cramp up and go numb for hours at a time. As a result, I have a service dog who happens to be part Pit Bull - a type of dog that I support very much, hence the portfolio I am organizing to help stop breeds like her, and other misunderstood GOOD dogs, from being KILLED. Talk to me about Charity.
You have a LOT of nerve, buddy, pulling a guilt-trip on me, using your disability to get free goods from hard-working, HONEST people. Shame on you, sir. Shame. :(
I don’t talk about it very often at all because I’m not looking for the attention, but for those of you who don’t know, Zena’s been in training for about six months now as a certified assistance dog.
She started by accompanying me to work every day, because I didn’t feel safe walking home alone at night in the neighborhood I lived in back in Toronto. I’m nervous and paranoid of most people in general, and so she really helped to make me feel more secure. But since then she’s been everywhere with me, every day. As I’ve helped her grow self confidence in herself after her own trauma, she’s done the same for me, helping me to get over my fears in dealing with people on a constant basis (had a few really bad anxiety attacks while at work, and for a while I went through a bad stage where I didn’t even feel that I could leave my house, without having her there to support me).
Since a few months before my move to BC, my left hand started giving me a lot of problems, which gradually spread through my arm up to the elbow. The muscles will randomly cramp up or spasm, and sometimes my hand will go completely numb for hours. I’ll also get occasional sharp chest pains, totally at random, which are unpleasant to say the least. So Zena is being trained as an alarm and retrieving assistance dog, for times that I have difficulty.
While I recognize that I can make due without having an assistance dog, she has been a great help to me emotionally. Although her staying trained as an assistance dog will depend on whether or not these problems get better or worse. If they slowly get worse, I will be very grateful to have her around to help me. If they get better (which I’m hoping they will) she’ll get an early retirement.
But I cannot BELIEVE that anyone would be so SELFISH as to use their own physical disability to gain stuff from others. That just makes me utterly sick to my stomach.
Just had to vent. I’m done now. :)
Current Mood: disappointed
Guilt trips only work if you like the person applying it. :)
They probably aren't even "disabled"; just being a douche trying the old "Help a poo' wittle disabwled fuhwee". People are so stupid.
Sorry to hear about your arm. Sounds like maybe a pinched nerve? :o
Yay for tards =P. I love that he has to tell you about himself and how sad he is if he doesn't get free art, oh noes. Funny how some don't understand this is how some of us pay our bills.
Take care of that arm hun, I want to see you get better :)
|Date:||May 13th, 2007 02:37 am (UTC)|| |
I happen to be in a wheelchair. I have tried to commit suicide many times...
Aww, don't worry. Keep at it. You'll get it one of these days! You need any help? I'd be glad to drop you down a flight of stairs.
*hugs the Jess warmly* You've said your peace to him. Ignore him and his pathetic little attempts to wheedle free porn with a guilt trip. Take care of yourself, now.
This is not so much evil, and more along the lines of a rambling spastic.
dude, props for the Tumbles the Stairdragon reference.
Piss on pity. Care to join the raging gimp squad? We have tea, and I can even lend you a crowbar. I have exactly zero tolerance for this kind of shit.
I'm glad to hear Zena is coming along in her training. Paxil is retiring soon - her successor should be (dog willing) coming home with us late this summer. And then oh the joys of puppy training!
|Date:||May 13th, 2007 04:02 am (UTC)|| |
Un f'ing believable.
And yet I know it to be a reality that many pull crap like that. I have been driving the access bus at Disneyland for quite a while and know what people will pull so they don't have to wait for a tram taking the bus away from those that need to use it.
You have every right to be PO'd at this person I am after reading the email reply. Just let it pass and take care of you and sorry to hear about your problems and how this person made you make us aware of it but you have my good thoughts now :)
Get better fast and hope you can make it to one of the cons soon as we didn't get much time to suit together and yours is soo cute *hugs*
You forget by not drawing him pr0n, you're the reason he's in a wheelchair ... so you owe him ... really you do. :P
|Date:||May 13th, 2007 04:28 am (UTC)|| |
Wow... that was pretty annoying/amusing in how you look at it... I mean, the nerve of that guy! Most artists are sorta underpaid anyway when it comes to time spent working on art, and this guy has the nerve to demand art for free?
Speaking of art, I'm finally pretty good at it and so I think I'll draw a badge for ya ;)
Take care ^^
I'd gladly mail him a box of razor blades and instructions on how to USE 'em. It makes me SO angry that people like that are sucking down MY valuable oxygen! Jerkoff.
Five bucks says he's not even disabled... just using it as a sob-story to try to get free shit from people. Augh.
Hey, I have Luxating Patellas.. GIVE ME FREE SHIT JESSIE! D: D: D: D: D: D: D: *emo wangst*
I'm also very appauled at what this guy tried to do. I went to a school that dealt with students who have a mental or physical challenges. I grew up with many people there, being a student from 7-14 years old (i was an extremely hyperactive kid, as well as needing special accomidations in my studies). Despite the challenges we were taught to never stop pursuing your goals and dreams because of the handicaps, to do your best and never let the challenges control your life.
What this guy is doing is very dirty. I don't care if he's on a wheelchair, I hate people who take advantage of others by being this way.
You are great person Jessie, I speak for Djago...your bro...and everyone else who support you. You are a great example to people who make wonderful contributions to animals in all the years I've known you thus far.
Wow, Jessie, I never knew you had the power to heal people with Disney porn!!
(*wants a t-shirt with the slogan 'Porn Heals'*)
I don't think there's any harm in asking people for free art - who knows, maybe someone'll really love your idea and decide to draw it. I really don't mind at all when people ask me for free art...They've just got to be prepared to hear 'No'. But whining that you're depressed and crippled and need free porn to heal your soul - come ON! =P
I agree it doesn't hurt to ask, expecially if the artist just draws for fun, or specificly says "I'm bored, give me something to draw!" But the key as you said is being prepaired for a No.
There's a big difference between "would you be interested in drawing X for free?" and "HEY, You should draw me X, and give it to me for free!!"
As with all things, politeness goes a long way :)
|Date:||May 13th, 2007 08:13 pm (UTC)|| |
People who use suicide as leverage really won't do it.
People who do, tend go to great lengths to make sure that no one knows until after it happens
, but that's off topic.
What a loser. :P
Sorry to hear that your arm's giving you trouble, though. Both Andrew and Chuck have had problems with their drawing arm at some point or another, so perhaps it's related?
I'd say 95% if they threaten, they don't actually want to die. They just want YOU to say that you want them to live.
|Date:||May 14th, 2007 10:56 pm (UTC)|| |
Agreed. I was just thinking it as the equivalant to the playground psychology of children using threats of "I won't be your friend" to leverage what they want. They may pretend not to be your friend if you don't yield, but eventually they notice that they were being unreasonable. ;)
i claim this post to be LOL'd!
*luffs and fluffs da wuff girl* :D
|Date:||May 13th, 2007 11:54 pm (UTC)|| |
Lots of people like to pull the guilt trip "I have problems so you should be nice to me" kind of crap. It's really sad. I mean, I know a guy on LJ who's been disabled all his life due to spina bifida, and I've never seen him making posts/comments where he whines or thinks he deserves extra-special treatment. People should take lessons from him, I think.
Wow, that's indeed incredible. o.o
I am glad I didn't get such mails yet (sure I also got "can you draw me free art"-mails, but not of that kind). Merf.
"I happen to be in a wheelchair. I have tried to commit suicide many times"
Yup. Here lies the key to his behaviour. He thinks everyone owes him something because of this.
|Date:||May 18th, 2007 11:16 pm (UTC)|| |
My usual response to that? "You're so pathetic, you can't even kill yourself properly."
I have asthma and can be put in the hospital if exposed to pet dander, dust, and/or mold for extended periods. Does this mean I'm entitled to free shit?
...and I'm sorry, your priorities in life are really screwed up if it takes free porn to make you not want to commit suicide. How about... I dunno... going outside, doing something, make some friends? o.O
Stop feeding the trolls, it only keeps them coming back for more.
Good day, Jessie T. Wolf.
I visited your LJ today after meeting up with Skandranon in Ohio this past weekend. We briefly talked about Toronto, and Skan listed off a couple of people who have moved out of the area (yourself included). I wanted to poke around your LJ for a little bit, just to find out how you were doing. I stumbled across your most recent post and bleah'ed at the email(s) you have received from this particular person, asking for free porn artwork so that he could live a "happier life."
*rolls his eyes* Gawk! I can't believe people like this actually exist!
You're an artist who has every right to sell your services, no different from Chartered Accountants or Lawyers. Other professionals may choose to donate their time to a worthwhile cause (the accountants setup free tax clinics where the income tax returns are prepared for free, if your income is below a certain threshold -- usually at the poverty line). Lawyers do similar charity work where the profession provides free legal services for those individuals who cannot afford a lawyer.
As an artist whose sole income is derived from the work you produced, you have every right to charge for your work. I simply rolled my eyes at the emailer's threat of "going to hell" if you don't help him out, and describing you as a "capitalist." (For someone who's looking for "free" art, he sure has a nasty way to express his "appreciation" of the artist).
Emails like this opens my eyes to all the crap you artists have to put up with. This guy wasn't even a commissioner! He was looking for free porn! AWRK!
Well, enough commentary in your Journal. It sounds like you are enjoying BC quite a bit! I feel for my friend Jaxx Blackfox, knowing how much she enjoyed spending time with you and sharing common interests like the preservation of pit bulls in Ontario.
Our paths don't cross often, but for what it's worth, I'm wishing you all the best in luck and success as you build a new life in BC.
Good luck, and take care!