My Dog Hates Me... :( - Jessie T. Wolf
My Dog Hates Me... :(|
*hugs* I have some thoughts that might help, or you might have tried em already, but here goes...
For the Crate: Sounds like you're doing great and keep at it with getting her used to seeing it as a safe place. If she seems scared/trapped when you go up to it, try keeping the crate up against some walls, or set it up so it's mostly solid around her, that way she can't feel like she's exposed from all sides. Makes it more "Den-like" too.
Also, try exercising the HELL out of her in the mornings. From my expereience, and everything I've read, it will help a ton with her pent up emotions and fears, as well as exhausting her so she's easier to handle. Plus, it'll give good bonding time back to you guys.
And, like other people here have posted, You're Alpha. She's gotta know that, and Tim has to support you in that role. Maybe not disciplining her himself, but not letting her get away with anything either. A trick that works great on puppies and may work great here (not sure how much she can be with you) but to keep her attached to your belt by her leash at all times (or as often as you are around). That way, wherever you go, she goes. She'll get used to your body movements, the idea that she's gotta follow you around and do what you want, to know you're safe, etc. Builds nice strong bonds. And of course the benefits for puppies (not the case here), is that when they have to go to the bathroom you're right there to know it!
You prolly already knew all these tricks before, but I just figured I'd throw my 2 cents in. I know how much you love her. *hugs* I hope everything works out for the best.