Taking A Look Back - Part 5 - Jessie T. Wolf — LiveJournal
Taking A Look Back - Part 5|
|Date:||March 26th, 2006 05:15 am (UTC)|| |
"I think he's right about love -- the feeling of being "in love" inevitably fades within a year. Ask any married couple. What gets you through that is being friends as well as being in love."
I'm aware of that. The initail happy floaty feelings may not last forever, but the feelings *of* love that you have for a serious partner usually doesn't fade, if you're both committed and truly love each other. I use the term "in love" more to describe my own feelings of deep connection and commitment to the person I see as a Life Mate, Partner, Husband, etc.
The problem with my feelings for Jay were simply that I think I had more of a crush on him that anything else, that I thought might be able to work out and develop into something more. But the way Jay often described a relationship was more like a "duty" or a freaking business partnership. O.x I'm sorry, but that's not what I want out of a relationship. I can't stick with a relationship out of just "duty" alone, if there are certain feelings missing.
It wasn't just about not being "in love" with him though. There were other problems, which I'm sure you've already read. ;-P