Fuckin' Eh! - Jessie T. Wolf — LiveJournal
|Date:||June 12th, 2004 05:48 am (UTC)|| |
I agree that could be distracting, and not a very good situation, but let me play devil's advocate here: if you put yourself in a situation that has the tendency to become distracting, you CAN take yourself out and nobody will fault you for it. If you have a specific purpose for being there, why not put it in your Away message? That way others will have an idea why you're not talking.
It's not fair for people to think that you're ignoring them on purpose when you're being torn in so many directions. You have too much stuff to do, and it IS your IM - your right to do what you wish with it. Things happen, and RL takes precedence - people should already know that when your away message comes up. If people ignore that, then there's something WRONG with them.
But it also goes both ways - it's not fair for a lot of people to be given false hopes about talking with you when you don't want it, yet put yourself in a 'chat mode'. If people were calling and interrupting you every five seconds, yes, I'd be pissed too. But if you roll out the red carpet for people to contact you, don't be pissed that they try - they might just want to be friendly and say hi, for the most part. And if you don't want that attention, the best course is not to expect everyone else to change, but to simply remove yourself from that situation.
Just an observation, hon. Whatever happens, I hope you feel better.
*lotsa warm walla hugs*
|Date:||June 12th, 2004 11:12 am (UTC)|| |
I DO put up my Away messages, THAT's the whole reason why this has been getting me so upset. And I hate ignoring people who IM me, even while I'm away. It makes me feel bad. So naturally I see what they want, but if I come online for even two seconds just to see what one person wants, five other people will see I'm now online, and take it as though I want to chat. So okay yeah... maybe I should just ignore people's IMs while I'm on Away... but dammit, it makes me feel like such a bitch. >.<
I'm just going through a period where I only want to talk to a select few people, not everyone. :/ I'm normally friendly and chatty, but just lately no one seems to understand that I've been trying to get work done. I've told people nicely, if they actually have something they'd like to talk about, then fine. Otherwise, please just let me do my thing, because I'm just not in the frame of mind to talk to a lot of people right now.
And I HATE it when people tell me to just log off of my messenger. I shouldn't HAVE to, if I'm waiting for CERTAIN people to get online. >.< It's a freaking insult to me that someone would rather _I_ log off and not bitch about people bugging me, instead of that person just leaving me alone for a little while. I need my space! It's not a forever thing here... just until I can get what I need to get done. O.o
This is also my PRIVATE list, too. X.x I stopped logging onto my General list because I was having this problem, only times ten. :/ These people KNOW better than to message me when they know I'm busy. That's why I'm annoyed. >.<
Thanks for your two cents though... *huggles*