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Two-Faced... >:/ - Jessie T. Wolf
August 11th, 2004
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Two-Faced... >:/
I’ll never understand how some people can be so damn two-faced. Okay, so I’ve been assured that I won’t be getting in the middle of our household drama, but I always manage to, somehow, without even trying. >.< Skip this post if you don’t wanna read a bunch of bitchy family drama. It gets kinda long. I’m not cutting this cos I’m lazy.

So I have a new roommate. After Bluey moved out, my friend Solon moved in. After his mom got him taken away so abruptly in the middle of the night to a freaking mental institution, we were kind enough to take him in when his only other option was to go to a Shelter. Now, I for one love having a roommate. It gets kind of lonely not having someone to come visit you in your room and chat, or watch movies with, and just… it’s good to have the company. I was a bit creeped out for a while seeing that room beside mine empty. :/ So I was happy when my mom agreed to let Solon stay with us.

But now, she’s going nuts, or something. In the beginning it was like, “Oh yeah, you can stay with us for as long as you need to, until you can get back on your feet,” when originally Solon said he wouldn’t inconvenience us, and only stay a few weeks. Of course, at the time he said that, he had no idea where he could go in only a few weeks. Then my mom started getting into how she’d let him stay here and be really happy if he would just help out with chores around the house. Then that went for pushing him to try to find a job, because she wanted him to start paying rent. NOW it’s completely changed to she just wants him out of the damn house as fast as humanly possible. >.<

I don’t know HOW my mom can be this way. It’s bad enough that she’s constantly putting pressure on him to find work… he’s BEEN looking, it’s NOT that easy to just find work. He admits that he could be trying a bit harder, but he HAS been looking. But now it’s completely gone from him trying to find a job so he can save up to find a place of his own, to my mom wanting him to get himself on Welfare so that he can get out of our house. She’s made it clear to him that he’s, “Overstayed his welcome,” and that he only said he’d be here a few weeks in the beginning anyway.

My mom keeps on changing her mind, and it’s driving ME nuts, and _I_ have to listen to her bitch about how much she doesn’t want the same thing to happen between her and Solon that happened between her and Blue. To make a long story short, my mom and Blue didn’t get along, and they drove each other nuts for four years, because my mom was trying to be a controlling Parental Figure to Blue, even though Blue was paying rent, and even though Blue LEFT home to get AWAY from Parental Figures to begin with. Now my mom’s paranoid as fuck that the same thing will happen to her and Solon, and she doesn’t want that, so she wants to kick his ass out ASAP. She doesn’t want the same thing to happen, yet with her being so damn paranoid all of the time now, she’s CREATING the exact same situation. The thing is though... HOW is he supposed to go anywhere with no job and no money? Welfare is a bitch, and they’re giving him a hard time as far as help goes. My mom is putting a LOT of pressure on Solon, and that’s in turn stressing me out because I somehow keep on getting pulled into the middle of it, and I’m PISSED OFF that my mom is being such an insensitive bitch right now.

Yes. Ohhh… I said my mom was being a bitch. And she is. Sorry Ma, I’m not taking that back. My mom can be the NICEST person, but then she can just turn around, and do THIS kind of crap. Like when she went nuts over my friends adopting a cat from us. And then two weeks later she wanted the cat back, but they didn’t want to give her back, because they really liked her, and they gave her a MUCH better home anyway. My mom turned into a selfish asshole and made a lot of trouble and stress for everyone, including not talking to me for over a month because I agreed with the people who adopted the cat over her. >:/ She got all mad at me, saying I didn’t respect her, that Family is supposed to come first. Obviously my MORALS don’t matter at all, and I should just agree with my mom, even though I think what she’s doing is totally WRONG. Like she says, “I wouldn’t just kick Solon out tomorrow with no place to go!” That’s SURE as hell how it sounds, Ma! You’re basically telling him you want him out, like, NOW, and not giving him any time to prepare at all. Nice. Really fucking fair of you. She just DOESN’T see things from anyone else’s viewpoint. She can be SO fucking stubborn, and SHE’S the only one in the right. Everyone else is wrong. >.< It’s everyone else that doesn’t understand HER. And she’s right... no one fucking understands her when she gets like this, because she makes no sense at all! Aarrrgh!! *gnaws on rocks*

Goddammit!! See, now I’ve gone and made an Angsty journal entry on Family Life. >.< I love my mom. I really do. She and I are actually quite close, and I’ll honestly hate to leave her when I finally do move out… but BLOODY HELL, I can NOT stay here forever, or I will go insane out of my head and... like… start tossing cats at her or something. >.< Why does my mom have to be so damned two-faced?? I hate it. Fucking hate it to hell. Wish she would just STOP, and recognize her own damn faults and try to work on fixing them. *sits and fumes*

Current Mood: pissed offpissed off

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From:kierstal
Date:August 11th, 2004 12:50 am (UTC)
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I. So. Understand.

I've been dealing with an identical type of situation with my grandparents; we (my mate and I) moved in to help around the house, take care of a few things they couldn't, etc; then they decide they're totally unsatisfied with everything we've done and put an ultimatum on my mate to get a job or get out; and it's only after we manage to do both (i.e, he found a job in another state and we're both leaving) thay they decide they didn't mean it.

Though I have to wonder; part of the reason my grandparents were freaking was because of stress in their own lives; could it be that your mom has a lot of bottled up stress that she's just taking out on Solon? Maybe she needs to really sit down and have a good heart-to-heart about stuff that might be stressing her out?

Sorry for just kind of being the complete stranger that pops her head in out of the blue, but this is something I can really relate to and thought I could offer some advice. ...murr, I'll take my nose out of your business now <:)
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From:wlfdog
Date:August 11th, 2004 06:09 am (UTC)
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No worries! New faces are always welcome. :) My mom does have a lot of stress built up, but trying to talk to her about it really doesn't do much. :/ A lot of the times she just creates her own problems, when they were never really there to begin with. >.< I don't know WHY she does this, but it tends to drive a lot of people crazy. :/
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From:fairbank_otts
Date:August 11th, 2004 05:43 am (UTC)

*cough*

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Mothers know best.
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From:wlfdog
Date:August 11th, 2004 06:11 am (UTC)

Re: *cough*

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Uh-huh... that's what she THINKS anyway. :-P If I ever become that crazy to my kid, (or just in general) just shoot me in the head.
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From:gryph0n
Date:August 11th, 2004 07:23 am (UTC)
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*hugsawolf* Aww, sorry to hear, Jess. Parental problems like these can always be sticky. Sometimes they can be worked/talked out, but sometimes people simply are who they are for whatever reason, and you simply have to adapt to the person's situation as best you can. I know the situation is similar with my dad - really nice guy, but he creates a lot of problems in his head, and dwells on them for no good reason, and it can make the household pretty miserable at times. I think there's certainly something to be said for moving out when the time is right - many people will tell you that they've actually gotten closer to their parents AFTER they've moved out. This is kind of ironic, but it often makes perfect sense. Parents have to be willing to let go when the time is right.

In any case, I hope all goes well for you and Solon. *snug*
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From:wlfdog
Date:August 11th, 2004 12:32 pm (UTC)
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Honestly, my mom REALLY doesn't want me to move out, but she knows she can't keep me here forever. I need to be independant. I just hope she behaves when 2's visiting next week. X.x I've never had much luck with the whole Parental Figure Meets Boyfriend type situation...

*snugs!* I miss you guys!
From:khakiwolf
Date:August 11th, 2004 08:20 am (UTC)
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I finally broke down and went to the temp labour office. UGH! But hey, it guarantees me work whenever I want (or feel like working), and those labour places usually pay upwards of $9-15/hr or more.

So, my suggestion is, if Solon is THAT DESPERATE to get a job, these guys hire pretty much anyone with steel-toed boots and can lift upwards of 45lbs. You should try to help him find the nearest agency to you and at least get him some temp labour until he can find a full time job.

See you on the 22nd. *snugs*
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From:wlfdog
Date:August 11th, 2004 12:36 pm (UTC)
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He's been looking at Temp agencies too.. although right now my mom really doesn't care if he has a job or not. She just wants him out. X.x
From:khakiwolf
Date:August 11th, 2004 09:28 pm (UTC)
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Mrff, that sucks. Well getting a job will at least get some money in his pocket in case he really has to move out on his own. Though it would be nice to find a place for him to live with someone to share the rent and such.
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From:wlfdog
Date:August 12th, 2004 11:25 am (UTC)
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*huggles* It's not really THAT bad... I mean, I have friends in worse family situations, so I probably shouldn't be bitching at all... but sometimes I just need to vent. :/
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From:iron_raptor
Date:August 13th, 2004 11:38 am (UTC)
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*big hugs!* I don't blame you hon....

Oh... that just BEGS to have a picture drawn of you tossing cats at people.

So do cats have to be primed like grenades before they can be thrown? Pull the pin, throw the cat?
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From:wlfdog
Date:August 13th, 2004 09:34 pm (UTC)
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I don't think they need pins. Teeth and claws are destructive enough! X.x
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